Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: My wife and I hardly seem to even have other friends. Is it unhealthy when married people spend all their time together?

Answer from Dr. Locker

It's healthy to want your partner to be there for you in every way. However, if you are too dependent on each other, you both could lose your own identity. In order to break your codependency, make the effort to develop your life outside of your marriage. Renew old friendships, or seek out new friends. Develop your own interests by taking a class join a club, starting a new a hobby. Finally, instead of always turning to your spouse for emotional support, occasionally ask your family member to be there for you. The more you work on creating a strong individual identity, the more you will have to share with your spouse. The best relationships are when two distinct people share their lives, rather than when two people try to be two halves making up a whole.

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