Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: During sex I sometimes fantasize about sex with my ex. I even fantasize about sex with my boyfriend's ex (a woman)! How should I handle this?

Answer from Dr. Locker

It´s normal to have these kinds of sexual fantasies. This does not mean that you would want to have sex with your ex (or with his ex). It just means that you have an active imagination during sex, and a natural way to spice up your sex life in your own mind. Here´s how to handle it: Be sure to recognize that this is not something to act out. Don´t talk about it with your partner. He does not need to know, and it will only confuse or upset him. While you should talk openly about sex with him, some fantasies are best kept to yourself.

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