Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: I've been corresponding with another single via email and things got pretty steamy. How can I slow things down when we start dating in person?

Answer from Dr. Locker

It’s easy for people to get carried away with a flirtation when they’re safely ensconced in their homes behind a computer screen. And since this can indeed get someone’s hopes up for your face-to-face meeting, it’s probably best to have the “we should slow down” dialog before you meet in person. Since you two already seem to have rapport online, consider breaking the news via this medium as well—that way, your date won’t feel deceived when he or she meets you in person and you can relax about your date. Just keep your tone casual rather than heavy and regretful, along the lines of “Hey, things got pretty wild between us online last time, so I thought I’d just make it clear that while I might be interested in making that a reality at some point, when we meet I’d like to take things slowly.” Who knows? Given lots of people are braver online than in person, your e-buddy might feel the same way you do and find it a relief that you brought it up.

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