Sex Advice

Dear Dr. Locker: I'm in a great relationship, but I still sometimes fantasize about my ex-girlfriend of three years ago. Is it bad to call her up just to see how she's doing?

Answer from Dr. Locker

Yeah, it’s bad to call her if you’re thinking about her sexually. Nine times out of ten, sex fantasies of an ex- are much hotter and easier to deal with than an ex- in reality. Keep the fantasies, but don't make her a reality in your life again. Why be let down when all the bad memories rush back as soon as you hear her voice on the phone? Why risk your great new relationship just to hear about your ex-‘s new boyfriend and how her mom is doing? Keep her in your fantasies if you'd like, but delete her from your speed dial. It’s been three years, man, get over her.

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